Saturday, 6 June 2015

Guest Post from Christa // What's your biggest MINDSET MONSTER???


Hey Friends!

So this letter landed in my inbox from my dear friend and Certified Nutrition Practitioner Christa Cheverie (her contact info is at the end of this post btw!), and I just needed to share it here with you. You could say she takes the words right out of my mouth but I'm really digging her version... ;)

Hi Rebecca

How are you?  How was your weekend?

I went to Lululemon this weekend. 

I love Lulu… I mean, really, what’s not to love?

Bright colors, styles that change more frequently than my underwear, functionality like no other, great service…

But there is something about a Lulu dressing room experience that is like no other. 

It doesn’t matter that 10 mins earlier I was admiring my returning definition while trying on shorts at another store.

Nope!  At Lululemon, everything changes

Muffin tops prevail.  Arm fat runs rampant.  There’s no thigh gap here.

Where does that back fat live when I am not at Lululemon?  No, seriously?!

When I say I can’t find clothes to fit, people scoff because I am small.  But it is true.

The woman at Victoria Secret walked me to the door and said, ‘you just don’t quite fit in our bras.’

According to William at Lululemon, ‘your waist is one size and your booty is another.’  Will says I have to decide which one I want to dress for and sacrifice the other. 

Would I rather pull my pants up constantly or the butt be see through?  Hmmm, how much bending am I going to do in these workout pants?   

I’m small.  Its true.  But in total honesty, I have a little extra weight on right now. 

I’m not fitting in my clothes so well, I’m not comfortable, and I don’t feel confident.

My point is we ALL have body image issues.  Men and women all have things they dislike.  We all want something…to be smaller, bigger, leaner, more defined, less defined, and yes, even heavier.

Recently, I had a woman approach me at a dinner.  After admiring her body all night (secretly wishing it was mine), she approached me to help her gain weight.

We need to be respectful of each other.  We should never belittle other people’s body image issues because they are different than our own.

The battle is actually between you and your own inner voice.  

Don’t dismiss someone confessing they want to loose 10lbs before summer just because you wish to loose more.   

You don’t know what invisible scripts are playing in their head.  You don’t know why she feels the way she does.

If you have a friend who wants to loose 10lbs while you want to loose 50, know that her struggle is just as real as yours.

Know that while you would kill for those long slim legs, she would die to have your breasts. 

While you wish you could show off your upper arms, she wonders why she always has a muffin top. 

While I envied this woman’s slender body, she was embarrassed because a sales woman tried to fit her in a training bra.

We all have an inner script playing that tell us we are not enough… that we are less than.

We all compare ourselves to others and then allow that comparison to fuel our belief that we are not enough. 

THAT NEEDS TO STOP!!  

This week, I want you to take this challenge.

Repeat 3x daily (set a reminder in your phone)

I am enough, I am enough, I am enough
I am beautiful
I am loved
I am wanted
I am more than enough

*** Be aware that this simple exercise may stir up some deeply rooted old gunk.  Take note of how it makes you feel but then power through that discomfort.  YOU ARE ENOUGH! and YOU ARE WORTH IT!

If you know anyone who may need to hear this, please please please feel free to forward it along.

I would love to hear from you…just hit reply to let me know what your biggest mindset monster is.

Christa

Contact ...
christa@christacheverie.com
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Big giant love and gratitude for Christa for letting me share here with you all!

I'd sure be interested in hearing about those mindset monsters also btw ;)

Blessings!

b.

Thursday, 28 May 2015

happenings & habits

Spring has certainly sprung around these parts and we couldn't be happier to be able to get outside and enjoy. Back when the weather was finally starting to turn, we had decided that we should implement a family walk after dinner. Now to be honest, it didn't really stick, but I don't think we have lost hope entirely ;) If nothing else I have a fun little set of snaps of one of our strolls here to share with friends and fam so certainly not all is lost. 

As I mentioned in this post, I've been particularly inspired and intrigued by a book I recently started called "Better than Before", by the author of "The Happiness Project" Gretchen Rubin, where she explores the conundrum so many of us face with regards to forming positive habits. Today I found myself writing a (long) list of seemingly simple habits I've been wanting to establish in my daily life, including...

~ a 10 minute meditaion/yoga practice (seriously.. just 10 minutes!!!)
~ reading before bed
~ journalling/writing something

Then I realized, I actually wasn't doing such a bad job of doing those things these days. Maybe they weren't happening every single day, but they were happening.

hmmmm.... Let's see if I can keep the momentum going. I'll keep you posted ;)

In the meantime, some sweet snaps of one of those gorgeous evening strolls with my handsome fellas a month or so ago...















the first bloom of spring
Any habits you wish you could make stick???

OR that you aren't giving yourself enough props for already doing?? ;)

Catch ya nextime friends.

Thx for being.

Bigtime blessings,

b.

Wednesday, 27 May 2015

"Why didn't you tell me.." a guest post by mama Theresa.

Hey there folks :)

Hope this finds everyone having a beautiful day. The sun is fighting it's way through outside here and I've got tons of gardening and schoolwork to do on this "day off" from the boys. I have been doing my best to do "one thing at a time" these days and as present as possible, however I did get the notion that I could probably plant and listed to class calls on audio at the same time... right??? ;)

As I semi procrastinated, I found myself riffling through bazillion lists on my Wunderlist App. If you are a list person this one is a dandy, I'm not sure what I ever did without it. I stumbled upon my "post ideas" list (there are only 25 or so sitting there.. haha), at the top of which, was a reminder to share some writing from my beautiful mama friend Theresa. I met Theresa at our Moksha yoga training back in 2010 where we resided in the same apartment building for the month. She was also the only other person I knew of in the training that wrote a blog at the time. For these and other personal reasons, I've always felt a lovely connection to her, especially since she is now mama to two beautiful boys just like myself:)



A while back she had posted a poem she wrote with a photo on her instagram, @postingsinpartum if you would like to hop on and follow which I highly recommend. I thought it was so incredibly beautiful, I asked her if I could share it here.

And lucky us, she said yes!
So here you go:)


by Theresa Cassar

Why didn't you tell me
that to be a mother
was to be a saint and a slave
a victim and a hero
both judge and jury.

Why didn't you tell me

that to be a mother
was to lose myself
in the sorrows and the fears
the mess and the noise.

Why didn't you tell me 

that to be a mother
was to have the honour
to foster God's angels
until called home.

Why didn't you tell me

that to be a mother
was to fall to my knees
in awe and humility 
what means to be loved.

Why didn't you tell me

that to be a mother
was the joy of all joys
the destruction of the girl
the birth of a woman.


*Sigh* I seriously just feel so blessed to have such talented and inspiring people in my life ;) 

Theresa has also published this must read, beautifully written post called "Shedding light on the reality of motherhood.", on Elephant Journal.

Please do check it out :)

Mucho love and gratitude to Theresa for sharing her gorgeous light with us!

And to you all for being!

Have a super duper fantastico day friends :)

Blessings,

b.

Tuesday, 19 May 2015

To begin, begin / Words of wisdom on forming positive habits.

Hiya folks :) First off, I would apologize for my blogging hiatus buuuuuuut truly it's been suuuuuuuper duper busy with all kinds of fun new endeavours and adventures around here, including a long weekend away to VEGAS sans kiddos (because really, who takes their kids to Vegas??), with my hubby this past weekend. I won't get into the details, because you know, what happens in Vegas... haha. I will say that I am pretty proud of how we did considering we are waaaaaay out of practice in the partying department yet we somehow seemed to hold our own with the Vegas crowd pretty well.

Then again, there is something about actually having the freedom to sleep until noon that makes things a whole lot more manageable in that department. Nonetheless, I can't imagine we could have handled a fifth night and were missing the boys pretty badly by the time we rolled in mid Monday afternoon. Our Thursday morning departure had been seamless. The boys happy to be informed that Mom and Dad would be back in a few days and they could have fun with our angel and "honorary our west" grammy, "Neese", and didn't bat an eye or shed a tear when we hugged and kissed our goodbyes and headed on our way... drifting into a parallel universe where we actually let loose a little, took time to enjoy each other's company, and even had real actual CONVERSATION.

TRUE STORY ;)

As I unpacked last night, I found myself rearranging my recently "encapsulated" closet (read more about creating your own capsule wardrobe here), making room to prettify some of the open shelves with photos and treasures. This process of clearing out and making space has me smitten. Seriously, I have always loved cleaning out a closet but this process has been exceptionally freeing. No doubt due to all of the new and exciting opportunities that have been coming my way, including, some fun new developments with the etsy shop, amazing personal breakthroughs and insights from the Abundant Yogi, "Lifestyle Design Coaching" course and overall rush of peace and positivity that seems to be permeating life in general.

Something else that has been coming my way as of late, seems to be the exact information I need at any given moment. On the subject of my writing hiatus here, blogging is something that I struggle to make room for in my days. For some reason it always comes last, and the thought of doing it often causes me a strange anxiety by times despite the fact that it always feels great to share in this way, once it is underway/finished of course. I lamented this to my always wise mama friend over coffee this morning as I told her about a book I started reading on the trip. Gretchen Rubin's, "Better than Before", which explores the struggle we all have to make and maintain positive habits. In the book she references blogging as something she personally made a point to make a habit of.  It struck me how this was something I really wanted to make a habit yet how truly FLIPPING DIFFICULT, even impossible by times, it seemed. I asked my wise dear friend why she thought that might be...

"it's because when you start to write you go down the rabbit hole... you begin with a topic and then as you write more and more ideas come through, each possibly worthy of their own post. you get overwhelmed and it makes it difficult to finish things..."

She continued on to give me some brilliant advice on how to use just a few minutes of free writing to help me stay on track to be shared possibly at a later date since getting into that right now has tumble into wonderland potential written all over it.

No pun intended ;)

Let me just pause here to also acknowledge how such conversations are also impeccably timed and how this friend truly always does have the answer I need...

Kind of like how the timing on finding a note book in my closet last night containing some pretty pertinent quotes I had started listing ages ago on this very subject, and thus that became the inspiration/purpose of this post so before I slip down that proverbial bunny hole, is to share them with you here ;)

All images are created with a super simple app called instaquote... just in case you were wondering :)











Any of those ringing true for you??

What habits would you like to bring into your life that feel out of reach??

Till next time.

Blessings,

b.

Tuesday, 28 April 2015

Spring Slow Down.


Hello friends.

Hope you all had a wonderful weekend!

So spring is in the air around here lately. I always find this season brings such a rush of motivation it can be a little overwhelming sometimes. In particular with being back to some "official" study and trying to cram way too much into my "days off" from the boys, I found myself in a bit of a super duper stressed out state a week or so ago. I knew exactly what was happening but by the time I realized it, I was deep in the throws of that panicked barely breathing state of crazy town. Luckily hubby is always good to help call me out on it when this happens which at least makes me feel like someone is there to help me climb out of my hole. Anyway, I have also come to realize that when I find myself in this place, it also usually means something super duper awesome is around the corner.

There is always something clearly lacking when this happens, and that is SPACE. It has occurred to me during these times in my life, how something as simple as staring at the sky, taking a walk in nature or simply sitting in stillness can bring so much of exactly what I/we need. While these things tend to differ for each of us in some way, it's pretty much always a no brainer to either get outside, focus on your breath, or figure out what in general makes you feel light and free, and do whatever it takes to carve out some time to do that. The key here is to be sure that you aren't consumed with the thoughts of all you have to do during that time and to make a point to truly SLOW DOWN, or better completely STOP. Like seriously, totally hit pause and just DO IT... or rather NOT DO.

Tricky tricky right??

Yesterday I had made the decision that it was going to be all about having a super fun day with the boys. The weather was perfection so we headed to town to the paved trails through the park so Foster could rock out his new spiderman bike. Wylie was happy to take it all in from his stroller while Jessy sniffed about. We followed our adventures up back at home, with a christening of a bubble machine I picked up over the weekend.

Somehow with a whole lot of sun blind shooting of picture and video, this little montage of our day came together. Adding onto our video diary concept we think we'll call this one "The Wonder(ful) Years."  Today's video is the first of this series simple called "bikes and bubbles", and serves as a little but much needed reminder to take er down a notch and be aware and appreciative of the little wonders in life. In particular our kiddos can do a fantastic job as our teachers here.

Let us be the student.

We sure hope you enjoy!



Blessing beautiful friends,

b & the boys.

Wednesday, 15 April 2015

Baby steps and buddying up with Downward Dog.


While I wish I could say that I did full yoga practice every day, alas, mommy life (at least in my world) does not lend itself well to as devote a practice as I would like. Nonetheless, as I have mentioned before, I do manage at least a tidbit here and there, sometimes with the assistance of the littles and sometimes tucked away on my own. It’s long been a dream of mine to be sharing that practice here on the blog yet alas (again..), there has been that ever nagging “Self Saboteur”, as I’ve learned to call it through Abundant Yogi’s, Lifestyle Design Coaching Program and the work of Susan Anderson, in “Taming Your Outer Child”, that has been holding me back. As I’ve mentioned I do teach yoga, however only manage one class a week at this time. Having chosen to do the stay at home mom thing for the most part, I always figured my calling was to share my study and practice of yoga (both the physical and the practically applied philosophical bits) right here. After all there was a deeply rooted reasoning I called this blog yogi mommi in the first place..

you know, just in case you were wondering ;)

As I’ve also mentioned, I had fairly recently come to enlist some (amazing) child care for myself a couple of days a week in hopes of making some of my dreams a reality in creating my dreams of becoming a mompreneur. Always, plotting and searching for a way to weave it (relatively) seamlessly into my mommy life. In my head it seemed “simple”. On paper, it looked (sort of) clear. Yet as applied in real life, meh, not so much. My struggles with it all as I may have mentioned ;) has been the bones of this blogging effort so far. It’s actually pretty amazing to look back over some of my posts and see how in my own way I was in fact “putting it to paper” as so much of my this new program I have kind of “fallen” into, suggests is so important. While I realize I have so much more work to do.. (like forever and ever…), I also realized I have been doing the work all along in my own way. The idea that I’ve taken the leap to find a way to gain some real clarity and actually get “unstuck” is pretty flipping exciting. 

Today I am off from my kids and spent the morning working on my course, listening to material, doing the associated exercises, and planning on dialing in for a live class at noon. When I realized that somehow I had not received the email with the dial in number I suddenly felt a bit panicked and lost even though I knew I would have access to the call afterwards. I realized it wasn’t missing the call that was causing my angst. It was the idea that I now had to come up with something else to do if I wanted this precious alone time to remain in productivity mode. I also realized that it was fairly likely that time should be spent putting together a blog post and one that addressed some of the fears surrounding that which this very morning, I had noted as clearly what I needed to do to make this thing happen. 

I can’t tell you how many times I have made a video, how many posts I have started and never finished. How many photo stories I edited and never posted. For some reason (and not just for lack of time), follow through on things has never felt like a strength, and with good reason. I’m not sure that anyone can say they operate at their best when they are feeling overwhelmed and at the root of it all, plain old afraid. The thing is I’m pretty darn sure that most of us don’t even realize how often we are operating from a place of fear. Over after these last few years of practicing mindfulness and learning to be in my body, taking time to observe the chatter of my mind, and finally (mainly as of late) learning to rest with uncomfortable feelings long enough to realize them for what they really are, have I become aware of the sensations that arise in association with the fear that accompanies thoughts of writing and posting here. It’s never been an easy process but I kept doing it anyway because something in me insists I need too. Of course once I make my way to the computer and start writing, quite often the words will just flow and when I finish and actually post something it feels so amazing, so right and true, that I know I did the right thing.. 

.. and yet, there is still the part of me that knows the same thing will happen again. The difference is, now I know why. Now I’m not scared of feeling scared. I’ve learned it’s those feeling of being afraid that we are afraid of. Fear is not real, it’s completely made up in our minds. We become trapped in that fear because we resist the sensations that arise when it does. If we can find a way to first become aware of the sensations (i.e. tightening the chest, a pit in our stomach, a lump in our throat, feeling suffocated or frozen, unable to move), and just then let that sensation be, placing our attention on it and giving it a right to live through us, then we can begin to feel truly free.

Ok, since I don’t actually have all day, getting back to the here and now, and how I ended up sitting down to post in the first place today. After taking stock in those feelings and letting them be, I had decided to make a move and to keep it simple. 

Yesterday I took a small big of video of my outdoor yoga practice with the intention once again of posting a snippet for some of my students and of course anyone else who was interested. Lately, in an effort to make things feel less scary I suppose, I had decided to focus my energy those people I knew would be interested in my help in this area. Sometims, it still perplexes me how I could not be afraid to get up in front of a group and teach, yet find teaching to a camera scary. Of course it comes back to the fact it’s something I would need to watch and inevitable critique.  Anyway, of course, I forgot to press record, (not the first time, nor intentionally). When I realized this, my yoga time “was up” so instinctively decided this “wasn’t the time” and started to move on to my next task.. 

.. but then something told me I wasn’t quiet finished and so I pressed record and got back on my mat, but this time with no preconceived notion it was to be shared. This time it was just for me. When I went back to the video footage today, I didn’t feel compelled to share the whole thing or spend a ton of time editing to try and make it into something “artful”. Instead a little voice reminded me of some of the pointers I’ve been gather from my course work, that even the tiniest steps in the direction we want to go, the smallest ways we can embrace and challenge ourselves to set our fears aside, will make all the difference in the world in eventually releasing them once and for all. My intention was actually to simply choose s snippet and simple post it on instagram. Easy peasy. A little baby step. I could do that. It would feel good, mainly because I had invited my fear in and used it as fuel. It didn’t matter how far it got me. All that mattered was that there was momentum.

Then suddenly I found myself writing this post..

ta-DA! 

haha.. just like magic.

Anyway, to get on with the yoga part of this for now, I choose a teeny clip of my favourite self adjustments in downward dog  to share. Just a few little pointers that can make all the difference in how we feel about the pose.

you know, kind of like in life ;)

So here you go.. 


DELVING A LITTLE BIT DEEPER in DOWNWARD DOG. 

oh and btw, there is voice recording link just below the video snippet. Who knows, maybe next time I'll actually manage to put the two together! haha.. baby steps! 

video




Hope to catch back up with you here again soon.

Have a super duper fantabulous day friends.

Namaste,

b.