Monday, 21 July 2014

monday mommi mantra // be still

It probably comes as no surprise that being still is exceptionally tough for me these days, despite my knowing just how much easier life seems when I make the time. In fact the simple art of finding stillness may just have the ability to have the greatest impact on our well being of just about anything we can do. 

We often think of stillness simply in a physical sense... Staying in one place... Taking a load off from our daily tasks. In a world of constant flux and change we are almost always doing or thinking about doing something. True stillness has not only to do with taking time out from always being on the go but with being able to set that mental to do list aside, to quiet the judgemental voice in our head, to begin to clear and open up that proverbial space, to tune into the flow of the breath and begin feel the subtle energy within that connects us all. When we feel connected to this place we feel more peaceful, more capable, more loving. We feel more at ease because we are moving in greater accordance with that which we are meant to be....

Sounds simple enough doesn't it :)


In this guest post, mama Natalya of Pilates Mommy Workout, gives us some great pointers on getting started on a meditation practice aka stillness (if we haven't already of course!). As I've mentioned, life is pretty nutso these days and finding time has been exceptionally challenging. On Friday I may have mentioned that I had formulated the plan of getting up before the kiddos to fit a little uninterrupted yoga and meditation in which being a good idea in theory,  yet as week one with this idea came to a close, the plan was yet to have been implemented.

Well friends, I am tremendously happy to report that this morning I DID IT!!! *high fives!!!* It may not have been the most energetic practice or deepest meditation of all times but it HAPPENED and now it is just shortly after 9 am and I am here writing this bringing me to my little ol list (in just a moment and in no particular order) of fabulous things that you just mind notice happening when you take the time to BE STILL...

... but first a quickie HOW TO REVIEW

1. Find a comfortable seat, lie down or just stop and BE where you are (i.e. waiting in line, sitting in traffic/on transit, feeding a baby...) Sure a quiet place free of distractions is best but that is not always possible...

2. Tune into your breath. don't try to change it, just pay attention to how it feels.

3. Witness your thoughts as they come and go and try not to judge (that just makes way for more distracting thoughts and rarely positive ones!). Simply "label" the thoughts as they come as "thinking" and once you have acknowledged them, gently let 'em go, just imagining them drifting away as you return to paying attention to your breathing.

4. Feel free to add a simply mantra to help you focus and draw on the positive and peaceful energy found within. (i.e. "be still", "just breathe", "I am enough", "I am peaceful and loving", I am patient and kind")

5. Do this for as long as and as often as you can! 

.... and btw.. you absolutely positively CAN DO THIS. It's as simple as believing you can AND making the choice to JUST TRY. 

Remember, there is no real right or wrong here, however if you follow these guidelines as best you can in a context that works for you, there a few pretty stellar perks you may just experience.... :)

1. An increase in productivity. Seriously, while taking time out may seem like something you don't have time for, I can pretty much guarantee you will get more done outside of that time... don't believe me? I guess you'll have to give it a go and see for yourself. 

2. An increase in patience. haha, ok I will be totally honest, while this is the absolute truth there is a reasonable chance (especially as a mommi or anyone who finds themselves short on patience in general for whatever reason) that you may have to throw in a moment here and there... a kind of mindful mommi maintenance program so to speak. Think of it as a daily (preferably) tune or fuel up that needs a little tweak or top up throughout the day. Mini moments of stillness can have amazing benefits as well however the ability to carve out at least ten minutes at a time can make a world of difference. First thing in the morning and/or last thing at night are optimal but as we know from this post, the most important thing to do is WHAT WE CAN. The thing is when we take the time to be still we will also experience..

3.  An increase in our ability to love (including what we do ;)). Undoubtably this practice will help us to be more loving and compassionate towards ourselves and others. The reason for this is simple. In stillness we connect to our truth, the pure loving energy that sustains us and everything in the universe. It's like opening a portal to infinite love that in turn will pour through us and out into the world. Pretty snazzy stuff isn't it?

4. An increase in our ability to connect to our purpose aka an increase in clairity. In finding stillness we are better able separate what is really important from what isn't so much. It's easy to find our mind cluttered with what seems like absolute madness by times. We struggle to sift through it all, to prioritize and purge what we don't need. Finding stillness allows us to quiet the insanity and hear the wee whisper of our true voice within. When we are able to quiet the noise and make the space to listen we often naturally begin to live in alignment with this purpose and find ourselves experiencing...

5. An increase in our overall level of peace & happiness. When we feel happier we also feel more peaceful and content with what is and seriously, whether we admit it or not, all anyone really wants in this life is to be happy not to mention the fact that happiness is contagious!

"Wisdom comes from the ability to be still. Just look and just listen. No more is needed. Being still, looking and listening, activates the non-conceptual intelligence within you. Let stillness direct your words and actions."

~Eckhart Tolle

Any questions, tips or tricks welcome friends! 

Hope you're having a beautiful Monday! 

till next time. 

be still and shine bright!

b.

Friday, 18 July 2014

Fun Fashion Friday // The Evidence.

Another week gonzo... no complaints... who want to hear them anyway? haha... seriously though I'm not going to lie. Even if I try to accomplish absolutely nothing in a day aside of taking care of the kiddos, I still feel challenged. I know we always hear about how tough toddlers can be but seriously...

I HAD NO IDEA.

Nonetheless, these boys are pretty fab as is our Jessy girl despite the fact that EVERYONE feels the need to follow mom to the bathroom 89% of the time...

seriously though.... also not a lie.

At the beginning of this week I had come to grips with the fact that if I was to get anything done (keeping in mind that the bare necessities were plenty if that was how the day rolled out) I had one or both options..

get up before Foster in the morning (no small task) when hubby went to work and/or be staying up later at night. As far as the rise and shine time in question... we're talking around 5 30 am which SHOULD give me a couple of hours to fit in a practice/meditation and a bit of creative biz time and really is totally the time I need to be doing this stuff. By the evenings I am totally bagged, ready to wind down and sometimes marvel at how I even got through the day.

So I had decided, mornings it would be.

Now I know you are just DYING to know how it went...

Well friends, let me tell you. It is Friday, and there were ZERO days this happened this week for a mirad of reasons including middle of the night needs and wanderings, very early rises from F and plain old having a tough time implementing a new habit that was going to TAKE AWAY from sleeping time.

One thing I did manage to stick with was the Monday Mantra. By times I found myself wondering if that mantra was giving me an excuse to "slack off" however all things considered, I have to say the week was actually quite productive.

You see I've realized something lately with the help of some wise person's blog post I cannot for the life of me find again to properly credit....

There is great benefit to actually taking the time to review what you HAVE accomplished rather than worrying about that which you have not.

This, my friends, is the idea behind the "evidence board" and as I mentioned, not something I can take credit for however indeed something I have to give enormous credit to, in allowing me to reflect on this week in a positive light.

I had stumbled upon this brilliant idea through Jodi Chapman's Soulful shoutout emails (and therefor should be able to track this back appropriately at some point... as usual I ask you to bear with me!).

Most of us have heard of the idea of a "vision board" and how useful they can be in helping us realize and manifest our dreams. This idea of an "evidence board" works with the simple concept of revealing and reviewing our accomplishments.

I've in no way got the time to actually MAKE a board right now as the fact that I am even writing this is a bit of a miracle. Instead I would like to share some of this week's highlights..

Monday - we made it through Monday... haha... actually Monday I may not have gotten up at 5:30 however I did make a point to get on my mat while the boys were eating breakfast (read:contained) AND I did it EVERY DAY THIS WEEK.

In the words of Leonie Dawson on the "Double your biz" Q&A call I also managed to start listening too on this fabulous FRIDAY... 

"HIGH FIVES!!!"

On Tuesday I had my third round at the chiropractor in an effort to get a handle on some annoying back and shoulder pain I've been having, mainly from dragging around a couple of crazies and as the doc pointed out, quite likely somewhat stress induced as well and rounded out by the fact that I've totally been neglecting any regular fitness routine. Funnily enough I never thought I was stressed out until he asked me about my stress level and I stopped to consider my days of clinging to my sanity for dear life...

ya, you know, now that you mention it... perhaps just a pinch of stress.

I have to say, Dr. Troy is pretty fabulous.  We agreed after a third round of adjustments, active release and laser therapy that the fact that I was still having the same stuff going on was undoubtably because I really hadn't changed anything I was doing day to day. He taped the affected areas for support and postural awareness and I have been getting back to some of my basics from my trainer days.

While the treatments themselves were certainly beneficial, it was really the realization/reminder that I needed to take it easy on some things (i.e. carrying my kids around) and amp up some things (i.e. postural awareness & strength). One other convenient perk and very exciting development is that hubby (who has been seeing the same practitioner) needs the same type of stuff AND had decided he was finally ready to give some yoga a go...

...and wouldn't you know it, he is ridiculously good at it. seriously. again, NOT A WORD OF A LIE. Go figure, I married a yogi in disguise ;)

I also took a wee me time after that Tuesday appointment... an hour in a coffee shop where I started drafting a post about my garden..  aside of taking care of the kiddos in the am, paying our flower gardens a little visit with a morning drink has been a pretty standard part of the day. I could go on and on about all the lovely little lessons my garden has taught me...

... however like I said, that is another post :)

Wednesday I managed a little s/m time on instagram and twitter (as if I can't find time for social media most days! haha). This might seem a little inconsequential or even a waste of time, however considering that it is something I need to work on fitting in if I ever am to make a go of my creative business (in process), it is kind of a biggie. I absolutely count this as evidence even if none of what I did was actually related to the business directly...

... it is also a good reminder that the next time I DO find/make time for this, it SHOULD be directly related to the business. 

In the meantime.. EVIDENCE that Studio Santosha is indeed IN PROGRESS. Offical tour coming soon!




Thursday Wylie and I headed to "the city" for his second visit with our naturopath (the ONLY true naturopath within a two hour drive radius basically which seems a little crazy) who also happens to be awesome. We have had great results from a first round of remedies for his eczema. If you know us well you have heard me harp about how terrible it was and I can honestly say he is better than 80% better most days and any extra flare up clears up quickly. The approach is to heal/strengthen the gut, assist in cleansing the liver with natural medicinal compounds along with probiotics and fish oil (vitamin D).

Topically I stopped any lotions creams except for coconut oil, shea butter and the HONEST COMPANY'S all natural HEALING BALM (which totally is the bomb btw). Once I got looking at the ingredient lists on some of the top brands of "eczema" creams, I realized that if I suspected any food intolerances (in particular gluten in our case), most of them could quite possibly be making things worse. I also started giving him some decaf green tea in his milk, a tip from a friend who suffers from eczema herself and find this little trick very helpful. Anyway, all in all things are looking WAY up in that department which is fab since it was really taking up a lot of mommi time and energy worrying about.

Anyway, Wylie and I had a few errands to run and of course ended up at mom's fave, "Winners" for a "let's see what goodies we might find" stop. A note to our American friends, this would be the equivalent to your tj max/marshals kind of bag :)

This mommi really love the thrill of the hunt and finding a good deal. I seriously can't pass a winners up without a peek and I pretty much always find something fab. Lucky for me, mr. Wylie also loves shopping with mom (for the time being anyway) and is delighted to take in the sights and offer mom his opinion in the change room. Seriously he was the best kid yesterday, in and out of the car and carts all day long, just content to be along for the ride and eat his snacks.

A nice break from the norm I have to admit. It's kind of lovely to go without a tantrum for the better part of the day. We missed Fin our own way of course, however he was more than happy to head to our angel Denise's for some major playtime while we were out on our little adventure.

Let's just say, we all had a great day :)

So now here we are, it is Friday. Somehow I have been able to write this and I'm not about to push my luck. The kids are fine, the flowers were watered while I got a start on listening to the aforementioned Leonie Dawson double your creative biz Q&A. Come to think of it I can probably thank her for this post as every time I connect with her and her course on any level I get something done in that general department :)

THANKS LEONIE! (more about Leonie and her amazing life changing program in this post...)

Anyways, a few fun pics in the spirit of our FUN FASHION FRIDAY theme which we may more fittingly call FAB FIND FRIDAY in this case.

Mom happened to snag Foster some killer kicks which he INSISTED putting on himself with ZERO help from his pesky mom..


Mom whooped it up and wore a GOOD DRESS (haha) for the day out. Sorry for the less than stellar pics btw... hastily snapped as after thoughts while trying to do several other things of course...


The dress is an express snag from our trip to Florida this winter and is such a perfect fit and so comfy plus it has POCKETS! A perfect bbq dress as my bff who was with me at time of purchase and bought the same one calls it ;) right K?? 


yup even Jessy girl was excited about it :) OR maybe she was excited to see us home.... either way, it is always nice to get a warm welcome.


did I mention this guy was the best shopping buddy ever??


he even helped mom pick out a little something... a super duper cute and comfy romper...

have I mentioned I am obsessed with rompers??...

... and that I really have to find some better light for these shots.

A task for another day at this point because I almost forgot, it's DATE NIGHT!

how about that ??? 

yes yes, ntb (not too bad) a life round these parts when you take the time to review the evidence ;)

happy Friday friends,

hope it's a dandy!

love and light!

b.





Monday, 14 July 2014

Monday mommi mantra // do what you can

Some days I wonder how the weeks can fly by so impossibly quickly. The last few weeks in particular have felt so crazy... Read... My kids have seemed exceptionally crazy. It seems they have decided to take a run at filling up every single moment with keeping mommi busy. Multiple times a day I find myself in absolute amazement at just how busy life really is and how I still expect to be getting anything else done. Multiple times a day I find myself completely losing my mind and wondering is it will ever return. Nonetheless I have been doing a reasonable job at keeping myself in check... With so much to be grateful for and so much inspiration in my life, there is little to warrant complaint. 

Considering that my to do list outside of being a mommi includes a pile of creative and logistic work on Studio Santosha (hey at least it is open... Haha, that only took a year or so...), putting the finishing touches on a children's book I am publishing (a longtime dream and extremely exciting), figuring out a way to blog more consistently (the theme day thing at least is getting me to it on Mondays it seems:)) along with promoting and revamping it in general, developing a mindful mommi living e-course, keeping up with the gardening, and finally carving out the time for yoga, meditation and reiki practices. Truthfully the later should really be topping the list since this is what keeps me balanced and (relatively) sane:)). I also know that this is what will ultimately keep me in a space where I may just manage to getter dun... 

Even if it's one little smidgebit at a time:)

And so as we start another wonder filled week, I invite you to join me in keeping these words in mind... (Should the resonate with you of course!)


...and most importantly...


Because as we all know, love will absolutely positively, save the day:)

And so as I am summoned once again to pry the dinky cars out through a tonka truck windshield, I am elated to have managed this post in one sitting AND before Monday is over (the phone reminder of which I have actually just changed to Sunday nights.. Haha... Look at me go!). I am also indebted to my angels who have somehow kept Foster occupied while Wylie naps giving me this rare bit of time to ultimately write myself, and you all, this much needed little love note...

One quick favour to ask of you all friends.. As noted on my to do list, finding the time on social media to get these posts "out there" is a little challenging, so I immensely appreciate any type is sharesies. Please help me spread the love to anyone who might need a little and I will do my very best to do what I can to keep it coming:) 

In love and gratitude,

b. 

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Monday, 7 July 2014

Monday mommi mantra // bloom where your planted baby



"Bloom where you're planted" was actually my yogi mommi tag line where I first started this blog. I had seen the quote on the entrance way well of a family members house and it just planted itself in my mind. Everyday for the longest time, over and over... 

I changed it to mindful musings in an effort to convey the intention a bit better however as I find myself blissfully obsessed with gardening, and on kind reminder from a BFF (thanks Haley baley!) I find it back on repeat.



And I couldn't be happier.
or more grateful.

Studio Santosha was born out of this idea. It has been in my minds eye for such a long time it seems, and as it slowly but surely comes together, I find myself in awe of the journey that places me here... Living each and every moment witnessing all that I can imagine as a dream life, coming true:) It's not secret around here that I struggle day to day with the fact that there is only so much time to go around. To make the very most of it, to enjoy and love and laugh, to listen to your inner voice and feel the purpose in your heart. That is all anyone can do, is all anyone needs to do. 

And so I get done what I get done and the rest will happen when the time is right..

It's been quite busy and very productive around here all in all and I have so much to share with you all.. so stay tuned:)

Namaste beautiful friends.

b.

Friday, 4 July 2014

fun fashion friday & a belated happy Canada day

So this post started as a Canada Day snapshot but....

then I got thinking...

one of those thoughts was that since I have been having fun with the last few "fun fashion fridays", I would like to work that in somewhere. Interestingly I did not make any conscious decision when I was getting dressed that day to don anything patriotic as I threw kiddos and provisions into the car to head to the lake to meet Dad,  but go figure...

                            

... and nautical to boot! haha, I love it when that happens :)

anyways, before I get on with it...  a couple of ways I love this old navy gem I grabbed back in the spring. It's such nice material, cut well and super soft and lightweight and of course, a fun bright print. As it turns out it also make a great bathing suit cover up... 

a couple of other ways I've sported it so far...



pretty basic but that's how I roll most of the time :)

alrighty... back to the day :)

as usual it was pretty flipping gorgeous out. As a photographer (I guess I can call myself that... although "crazy picture taker" feels more accurate most of the time), I have THE HARDEST time not stopping a million times on my way everywhere to take pictures. 

sigh.. ya I know, it's a tough problem to have. We were looking to get where we were going however as there was only so much day left and only so much of that would be with happy campers so one prairie meadow shot it is...


anyways, we made it! all aboard :)












Yes,  a pretty lovely day all in all. How blessed are we to live in such a beautiful place and have such amazing experiences and opportunities. I only hope we can all remember how fortunate we are to be free...

to simply be :)

pretty darn blessed indeed.

hope you're feeling grateful to be... wherever you are :)

have yourselves a beautiful day!

thanks for being :)

b & the boys

Tuesday, 1 July 2014

superman

So we've got a little video for you today but first a little back story...

Foster and I actually shot this footage back in the spring. As usual, I started editing it, got distracted by the dozens of other things going on in our lives and then finally yesterday, on my mission to get cracklackin on some of these posts sitting in wait, threw down the finishing touches including the soundtrack, (selected after quite a few trials) "Superman" by Five for Fightin'

I think you'll agree, it was a pretty sweet fit :)

Interestingly enough, I had actually entitled the project as I was working on it, "Tuesday". I had full intentions of changing the title before publishing but alas... it was only after I posted it to youtube that I noticed the miss. Truthfully it had taken me so flipping long to post it there was no way I was taking it down for a do over plus there really wasn't much reason to change it considering that I had shot it on a Tuesday, I was about to post it on a Tuesday (go figure) and quite truthfully, I hadn't had another title in mind...

 OH and not just any Tuesday btw! Before I forget, Happy Canada Day to our Canadian friends! Hope it was a great one :)

Last evening hubby and I had found ourselves sitting in the shop having some us time... it seems we always have our best heart to hearts out there. The kiddos were (finally) asleep after a kind of long day. 

As I've mentioned, both of us are from Prince Edward Island (were actually h/s sweethearts and reconnected after over a decade in case you missed it...). As you may know, PEI (being an island) is kind of a big fishing spot to say the least. The majority of his friends that are still there fish for a living. Sadly two of his closest friends of this bunch passed away suddenly in the last two years, Shawn and Sean...  the first nicknamed Wiley, whom we named our own little tank after, and the other nicknamed Donkey. Both of them had stuck around the island to fish and raise their families.

 Both Sean and hubby were pretty stellar hockey players. Sean was a few years older and despite opportunities to carry on with the sport, had chosen home and family without a thought. Hubby had really looked up to him, and been a pretty hardcore fan on top of their close friendship. 

Though I did not know either of these guys really well, I can honestly say that I think of them both every day in some capacity. In particular, I feel Shawn (Wiley) often, and had actually commented that he must have been around to help settle our Wylie that evening. Wylie had been having a bit of a time that day (teething was my guess) yet settled perfectly when I had put him down that night.

 Yesterday was "landing day" as one of the fisheries wound up for the year. A lot of people would have really had these guys on their minds, their earthly presence heartbreakingly missed. Hubby was no exception.

So we sat, we chatted, we reminisced, we cried, we laughed, we listened to sad songs and happy ones. We talked about who they reminded us of....

...and then Superman came on.

 hubby said, "this song reminds me of Sean, he always seemed like Superman to me, unbreakable, unstoppable, like no one could hurt him..."

I stopped, I waited to see if he made the connection, but he hadn't, despite the fact that I had shown him the completed video about a half hour before. I certainly couldn't blame him. He had a lot on his mind and Foster really takes the cake in this little diddy, dealing out some pretty funny antics sure to overshadow pretty much everything else... 

as usual :)

But didn't exactly slip by me...

Now anytime I watch this video or hear that song, I will be reminded of the day that hubby's pal popped by to help me with my soundtrack selection ;)

I would like to dedicate this to both these amazing souls, you are greatly missed, eternally loved and we are so grateful to have you as guardian angels to our boys. Love, blessings and heart healing light to all those you've touched during your time. Surely they all look forward to seeing you again one day and it is my wish they may know in their hearts you will always and forever, reside with them there.

Now like I said, I didn't know these guys that well however I know enough to imagine they might get a kick out of this kid so without further adieu.

Happy Landing Day/Canada Day boys, 

this one's for you :)



luv yas friends :)

b&f

Monday, 30 June 2014

Monday Mommi Mantra // just breathe

Even a single mindful moment, just one conscious breath, can make all difference.

Presenting a first ever...

"Monday Mommi Mantra".

Whatever you are doing.. 


Have yourselves a dynamite day friends:)

Thx for being so super!

b.