So this letter landed in my inbox from my dear friend and Certified Nutrition Practitioner Christa Cheverie (her contact info is at the end of this post btw!), and I just needed to share it here with you. You could say she takes the words right out of my mouth but I'm really digging her version... ;)
How are you? How was your weekend?
I went to Lululemon this weekend.
I love Lulu… I mean, really, what’s not to love?
Bright colors, styles that change more frequently than my underwear, functionality like no other, great service…
But there is something about a Lulu dressing room experience that is like no other.
It doesn’t matter that 10 mins earlier I was admiring my returning definition while trying on shorts at another store.
Nope! At Lululemon, everything changes.
Muffin tops prevail. Arm fat runs rampant. There’s no thigh gap here.
Where does that back fat live when I am not at Lululemon? No, seriously?!
When I say I can’t find clothes to fit, people scoff because I am small. But it is true.
The woman at Victoria Secret walked me to the door and said, ‘you just don’t quite fit in our bras.’
According to William at Lululemon, ‘your waist is one size and your booty is another.’ Will says I have to decide which one I want to dress for and sacrifice the other.
Would I rather pull my pants up constantly or the butt be see through? Hmmm, how much bending am I going to do in these workout pants?
I’m small. Its true. But in total honesty, I have a little extra weight on right now.
I’m not fitting in my clothes so well, I’m not comfortable, and I don’t feel confident.
My point is we ALL have body image issues. Men and women all have things they dislike. We all want something…to be smaller, bigger, leaner, more defined, less defined, and yes, even heavier.
Recently, I had a woman approach me at a dinner. After admiring her body all night (secretly wishing it was mine), she approached me to help her gain weight.
We need to be respectful of each other. We should never belittle other people’s body image issues because they are different than our own.
The battle is actually between you and your own inner voice.
Don’t dismiss someone confessing they want to loose 10lbs before summer just because you wish to loose more.
You don’t know what invisible scripts are playing in their head. You don’t know why she feels the way she does.
If you have a friend who wants to loose 10lbs while you want to loose 50, know that her struggle is just as real as yours.
Know that while you would kill for those long slim legs, she would die to have your breasts.
While you wish you could show off your upper arms, she wonders why she always has a muffin top.
While I envied this woman’s slender body, she was embarrassed because a sales woman tried to fit her in a training bra.
We all have an inner script playing that tell us we are not enough… that we are less than.
We all compare ourselves to others and then allow that comparison to fuel our belief that we are not enough.
THAT NEEDS TO STOP!!
This week, I want you to take this challenge.
Repeat 3x daily (set a reminder in your phone)
I am enough, I am enough, I am enough
I am beautiful
I am loved
I am wanted
I am more than enough
*** Be aware that this simple exercise may stir up some deeply rooted old gunk. Take note of how it makes you feel but then power through that discomfort. YOU ARE ENOUGH! and YOU ARE WORTH IT!
If you know anyone who may need to hear this, please please please feel free to forward it along.
I would love to hear from you…just hit reply to let me know what your biggest mindset monster is.
Big giant love and gratitude for Christa for letting me share here with you all!
I'd sure be interested in hearing about those mindset monsters also btw ;)